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What Is Emotional Sobriety?

Tuesday, February 14th, 2017

What Is Emotional Sobriety?An estimated 20 million people in the United States, struggle with a substance abuse disorder, according to the National Institute on Drug Abuse. Unfortunately, only about 10% of these people receive appropriate treatment. Whether you’re struggling to regain your life or well on the road to recovery, you’re probably focused on attaining or maintaining your sobriety. This is a noble goal, but there is more than one kind of sobriety. While your physical abstinence from substances is a vast and important piece of the puzzle, so is your emotional sobriety, which enables you to live a productive and fulfilled life.

Do You Know What Emotional Sobriety Is?

We use the term “emotional sobriety” to describe a state of mind that goes beyond physical recovery. While giving up drugs and alcohol is an important first step, emotional sobriety is essential in maintaining your positive lifestyle change. Emotional sobriety involves honing the ability to cope with your emotions, especially those associated with drug and alcohol use. Our brain defends us from painful realities by creating defense mechanisms. Unfortunately, addicts usually protect themselves from these feelings with drugs or alcohol. Achieving emotional sobriety is essential for maintaining your physical sobriety, as you will be better equipped to handle the negative feelings and events that are an inevitable part of life.

Addicts often feel that detox is the hardest part of getting clean, and this is partially true. Detox is often the most physically rigorous aspect of sobriety. Learning to cope with your feelings along with addressing and resisting temptation is a lifelong battle. Emotional sobriety is the most important part of finding peace with your past actions and finding confidence in your healthy future. An emotionally sober addict will be able to handle their feelings in all of life’s moments and also acknowledge when they need help.

How Can I Achieve Emotional Sobriety?

There’s no magic class or patented method for achieving emotional sobriety, like physical sobriety, it is a constant effort. Your rehabilitation program, however, will likely address emotional sobriety. Group therapy, family therapy, and individual sessions all help you uncover the factors that have been driving your addiction. This allows you to address them without the help of alcohol or drugs. For example, if your addiction arose in the aftermath of a traumatic event, you’ll have to address the negative feelings associated with that event that you’ve been masking with substance abuse.

How Can I Achieve Emotional Sobriety?

Emotional treatment plans are focused on helping you be comfortable in your reality, no matter what it may be. The aim is to help you find your authentic self, both in good moments and in bad. This is a vital part of living a fulfilling life in sobriety.

Each person’s journey to emotional sobriety is a little different. Since no one shares the same struggle, your treatment will also be tailored to your unique needs.  Treatment will involve helping you find and maintain your healthy emotional balance. You will have to accept reality as it is, stop dwelling on past mistakes, and look forward to all aspects of the future.

Why Emotional Sobriety Is Important

Some addicts take charge of their physical sobriety but never learn how to address and process their emotions properly. These people are more prone to relapse. The most successful addicts are the ones who realize their journey to recovery will never end. Recovery is a lifelong fight to resist temptation and address the negative and positive feelings in their life in equal measure. Life is full of challenges, and recovery is focused on being able to cope with them. Emotionally sober people can resist the urge to turn to substances, not matter what they’re feeling. When you’re comfortable in your own skin, you’re more likely to confront your emotions than avoid them with substance abuse.

Think of emotional sobriety as a healthy mindset. It will take work, but this healthy emotional mindset will put you on the road to a healthy life.

Achieving a Healthy Emotional Balance

Addicts struggle to achieve emotional balance more than most. Since intoxicants dull feelings (often purposefully so), addicts experience emotions in hyper drive after finding physical sobriety. Addressing these feelings as they come is an important part of attaining emotional balance. Learning to cope with life’s highs and lows and become present in each moment is difficult. Your sensations may hit you with more ferocity than before, which can throw you back into temptation. You must live consciously and deal with your life, no matter what its terms. This is the emotional balance.

Finding a balanced state of mind is easier said than done. It’s not so much a process as it is a commitment. To start, commit to having a positive outlook on life, no matter what the circumstances. This could include starting a gratitude journal or taking a few moments to think of what you’re thankful for before you go to bed each night. Meditate. Talk to friends. These little things add up over time to create a well-adjusted, positive sense of self.

At the same time, be careful not to create a veneer of happiness that hides sadness underneath. It’s just as important to address painful experiences, as it is to acknowledge positive ones. When you’re feeling low, talk to a friend or your sponsor. Discuss temptation and your continued road to recovery. By putting these feelings out in the open, you’re allowing yourself the opportunity to process and put them into perspective.

Emotional sobriety is not an easy task, but its well worth the effort. Make your commitment to recovery a holistic one, healing your mind, body, and spirit. This enhances your ability to live a long and fulfilling life.

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From Doubting Recovery to 2 Years Clean and Sober

Monday, March 7th, 2016

Doubting Recovery | Clean and Sober | Addiction


Angela found herself experimenting and abusing drugs in her early teens. She was involved in a horrible motorcycle accident that left her seriously injured. It wasn’t long before she began abusing opiates, which soon progressed into heroin and crack cocaine. Although she knew she had a problem, she couldn’t bring herself to quit and felt the drugs were more important to her than her family and friends.

One day she saw herself in the mirror and she had dropped to a mere 90 pounds. All she cared about was chasing the next high, not about her loved ones. It was then that she realized that she couldn’t continue living that way.

Before attending The Treatment Outpatient Services, Angela was lost and hopeless and felt she would need someone to push her to get addiction treatment. When Angela first started her journey in recovery, she didn’t think she’d be able to do it. She felt she needed encouragement and someone there to push her to complete her treatment.

Angela went from doubting recovery to 2 years clean and sober. The Treatment Center Outpatient Services gave her the foundation, understanding, and freedom from addiction that she hoped for. Find out how she’s doing today in the video below:


Best of the Week 1/4

Friday, January 3rd, 2014

Welcome to our weekly roundup of the best addiction recovery news sources, compiled from various places across the web.

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Enjoying The Holiday Season

Monday, November 25th, 2013

It is well known that the holidays can be a stressful time in recovery, but that doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy them. Whether you are staying local or traveling, don’t let the holidays catch you off guard. Be realistic with your expectations, and create a plan to make the upcoming holidays go smoothly. Taking preventative measures to make sure you feel comfortable during the holidays will not only protect your sobriety, but also allow you to enjoy the season.

Keeping it simple is a sure way to eliminate stress during the holidays. Don’t overwhelm yourself with the expectations of family and friends. Whether this means attending less holiday parties or spending less money on presents, know your limits. If given the opportunity, discuss your recovery needs with your family. They may not know what you are able to handle unless you are open with them. If they can’t accept your limitations, that’s okay. Staying clean and sober is your main priority and it’s the best gift you can offer them.

Having an exit strategy before you arrive somewhere is a simple way to relieve some anxieties you may have. Let the host know at the beginning of the party that you may have to leave early. This eliminates the pressure to stay the entire time, and may allow you to enjoy yourself more. Before you travel for the holidays, find out ahead of time where and when you can attend 12-step meetings. If you begin feeling overwhelmed or triggered, you will already have a plan.

There is nothing greater than the gift of giving. With this in mind, consider anonymous giving, helping at a charity event, or lending a hand to friends or family. Being helpful, even in small ways, will not only help you but the people around you. Creating new traditions is a great way to give yourself a fresh start during the holidays. This could be in place of an old tradition or simply to celebrate your new life in recovery.

If you know someone who doesn’t have a place to go this holiday season, invite them along with you. This not only gives them the relief of not being alone, but now you both have someone to rely on for sober support. It will also make you feel good to make their holidays less lonely. Last but not least, take care of yourself! Get enough rest, eat healthy, and relax. Remember, being clean and sober is the best gift you can give to yourself and those around you.


The Value of Choosing Sober Living

Monday, July 9th, 2012

I have been to treatment several times, and I have found dozens of justifiable reasons not to follow through with the sober living plan that I had laid at my feet. I thought I didn’t need it, I thought the therapists who recommended it were crazy, and I did not think I had time in life for dealing with “sober living”. I went back to treatment again and again, always blaming everyone around me for my last encounter with active addiction, but it was my fault. It was always my fault when I relapsed. It was not that ex-girlfriend who didn’t want to get back together, it was not my parents, it was not the stress of life- it was me.

I share this example of defiance because my entire life has been filled with excuses and justifiable reasons not to listen to the people who were trying to help me. My life has been filled with lies I told myself and believed, and I know I am not alone. I know that I am not alone because today I manage the Fern House, a residential recovery program, and I see how easily we can persuade ourselves to believe the lies our disease tells us. I often look around at the things my guys do and say and think to myself, I understand that because I used to think like that. Countless white chips later, I am blessed because I finally think differently.

When I think back on the time when I got clean, and honestly ask myself if I thought that I would still be clean if it were not for being committed to living in a sober environment, I know what the answer is. Had I not woke up one day and begged for a chance to live somewhere that had structure and discipline, I sincerely doubt that I would have made it. I believe I would be dead today had I not made the decision to choose sober living.

I am not sharing this with the thought that someone who does not think they need sober living will come to some magical realization that my story applies to them. I stopped believing the lies I can tell myself. This is for the person who is thinking about sober living, but isn’t sure if the people guiding them have their best interest at heart. Today, I am certain they do!

I believe we are all on a journey and those of us afflicted with addiction have to live through horror, sometimes over and over again, before we become willing to accept suggestions. My only hope is that this might reach that one person who has seen their share of pain, and is ready for real change. This is my story. I can only speak from my own experience, and for this recovering addict and alcoholic, sober living was a must.

By Chuck Cordle

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